{"id":654,"date":"2009-08-18T08:36:43","date_gmt":"2009-08-18T12:36:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/?p=654"},"modified":"2009-08-24T00:25:48","modified_gmt":"2009-08-24T04:25:48","slug":"miscon-trap-tions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/?p=654","title":{"rendered":"Miscon-trap-tions"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Topic 1: Misconceptions – Avoid the trap.<\/p>\n

Misconceptions occur when the other party in the relationship is\u00c2\u00a0unclear as to what their partner is saying. So the first step would be\u00c2\u00a0to say what you mean and do what you say.\u00c2\u00a0Easier said than done? Perhaps, but if you don’t want mistrust to creep\u00c2\u00a0in, especially in a new relationship – be consistent. Your partner will appreciate it.\u00c2\u00a0For instance if you don’t really have plans but things are “in the\u00c2\u00a0works” and you’re asked what you’re up to – It’s fine to say nothing\u00c2\u00a0but include the fact that there may be these things going on later\u00c2\u00a0that you might be doing, that way if you do end up getting that call\u00c2\u00a0later and you’re out and about you can avoid the “well I thought you\u00c2\u00a0said you weren’t going to do anything” conversation.\u00c2\u00a0Sure the headache medication companies may not agree with this – but it’ll save you in the long run. This is especially true if\u00c2\u00a0you’re hanging out with one or more of your ‘unsavory’ friends.<\/p>\n

If you happen to be the person asking the question though, try not to be a neurotic mess. True story – A Journal entry reads “It’s ok if he is hanging out with his friends. it doesnt mean that you are loved any less or that he doesnt care – he probably does but doesnt have time ? What does it matter though – look to your own life and spend your time focussing and making sure that you arent losing track of yourself amidst all of this. When the both of you have time, it will pan out – You can totally do this!”<\/p>\n

To truly avoid misconceptions and feeling like something is amiss – be explicit (if you so wish) about most things because it helps prevent doubts on either side. Also? Learn to let go and compromise and dont make your relationship all about your object of affection. It sets up a bad pattern of feeling like you have been betrayed when things evolve, as they inevitably do for the better or worse.<\/p>\n

Key ideas ? (1) Communicate effectively (2) Dont be El Capitane Crazy and let small issues evolve into becoming grandeur points of contention<\/p>\n

When all else fails ? Take a breather and think of a good part of the relationship to help you with thinking about why you are with your love.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>\"\"<\/a>Cory & Nel<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Topic 1: Misconceptions – Avoid the trap. Misconceptions occur when the other party in the relationship is\u00c2\u00a0unclear as to what their partner is saying. So the first step would be\u00c2\u00a0to say what you mean and do what you say.\u00c2\u00a0Easier said than done? Perhaps, but if you don’t want mistrust to creep\u00c2\u00a0in, especially in a new […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[5],"tags":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/654"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=654"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/654\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":693,"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/654\/revisions\/693"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=654"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=654"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/underbellyofsunshine.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=654"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}